The institution of marriage as opposed to the relationship of love has always been a matter of convenience.
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Marriage - A Matter of Convenience?
The institution of marriage as opposed to the relationship of love has always been a matter of convenience.
In the past when socioeconomic status was inexorably tied to an inherited caste system, a caste determined marriage was the most reliable way of ensuring a continuance of the lifestyle that the parties to marriage were born into and grown accustomed to. Caste determined occupation and therefore earning power. Caste determined social status and ones role in religious practice. Caste was therefore the most important determinant of lifestyle. With such clear differences between the castes, marriages between individuals of differing castes would expose them to widely different lifestyles that could potentially lead to marital discord. This is probably the reason why matching of caste emerged as a rule of the thumb to achieve marital compatibility.
In urban India, socioeconomic status is increasingly becoming independent of caste. Occupation is no longer a matter of caste-linked inheritance. Religious and cultural practices too are becoming more homogenous across the previously well delineated caste boundaries. Lifestyles are to a great extent determined by spending power and are influenced less by caste. In this emerging new social structure, convenience therefore lies in matching earning prowess which is now decreasingly determined by caste. Inter-caste marriages pose less of problems in terms of cultural compatibility and day to day interaction for we are all merging into a common culture.
The caste based marriage system evolved and was stable because at the heart of it was the fact that matching castes was equivalent to matching economic power, social status and cultural lifestyle. Now, in many cases, matching of caste in marriage is no longer essential for achieving such compatibility. What is not essential will not survive.
The institution of marriage was a matter of convenience and will remain so. It is the factors that determine convenience that have changed.
Synaptic Muddle
© Harsha Halahalli, 2008
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Dear Scribblingpad
Thanks for the comment.
I think you may have missed my point. It is not my case that inter-caste marriages did not take place or work in the past. I was expolring the question as to how caste may have become such an important factor in match-making and how that arrangement may have evolved and become stable. What I postulated was that caste-matching may have become a way of improving chances of compatibility because it (caste) was so closely linked so many other aspects of day-to-day life. I am not advocating the superiority or inferiority of any one type match-making. Just amnalysing how and why caste may have become an important consideration on the process.
Regards
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You make some good points, the convenience can be for the sake of money, power, caste, prestige, for NRI's a legal status or any other things but I think this institution will stick around for a long time.
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Anneshwa
I am not really talking about 'arranged' Vs 'love' here. Just thinking aloud about what may made caste based match-making work in the past, atleast in most cases.
Thanks for the comment.
Regards
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Hi! Keshav
Yes, that is what I was trying to say, caste need not be a good match-making tool anymore.
I was thing more along social and cultural factors rather than biological factors. But in a sense a Darwinian kind of interpretation would be possible even for such non-biological factors.
Regards
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Dear friend,
Even those days, women married out of their castes. Of the two the higher one would follow the lower. The higher was always ostracised and thrown out to follow the lower. BReak mostly never occured. Concept of break or divorce is a new concept in our society and not caused by caste discrimination. IT is women's lib, freedom , modernity, grwoing intolerance to eachother/ inability to work out and adjust mutually that leads to incompatability. plz...zzzzzzzz revise yr post!
scribbly
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Its not so important how the alliance was done, based on love or arrangement, the things that's important is the journey called life after marriage.
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Hi Synaptic,
That was interesting. Match-making continues, whether it is through the organised way of arranged marriage or through 'love marriages'. Caste as a parameter was convenient because in those days, like you said, everything else was determined by caste. Now we look at things like educational qualification, job / profession, possesions, etc
Going further back, doesn't this run into the Darwinian theory of selection? The animals will select their mates by eliminating weaker contenders.
cheers,
Keshav
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